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NEW YORK (RNS) Ours has become a culture of whining. People bristle at the slightest discomfort or shortcoming. Do we all feel that helpless? Is our addiction to control so granular that we cannot tolerate anything out of order? By Tom Ehrich.

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  1. Well, I would say that just voicing a complaint one or twice doesn’t mean a person is whining. That word gets thrown around far too often by others who just simply don’t want to hear or help when they are able. People really need to learn how to distinguish between what is a legitimate grievance i.e. complaint and what may be “whining.” The difference as I see it? A bona fide grievance i.e. complaint is when a person in an assertive but still civil way approaches a person up to but not more than 3 times about the situation they want remedied, and then maturely accepts the outcome whether or not the issue is resolved.

    “Whining” is when a person elects to not address an issue in a mature fashion, nor talk directly to the person(s) who are in a position to help. Rather, they refuse to accept any responsibility on their part, and then sneakily and viciously and CONSTANTLY crabs about the situation or person to anyone with ears (or social media.)..and when presented with an opportunity to fix the problem they elect not to act, but continue to voice their grievances early and often…including a lot of ‘if only’ and ‘would, coulda, shoulda.’ or may even get abusive with the person who tells them they are ‘whining’ and not being pro-active. All you can really do in the latter case is just walk away…and let ‘em stew in their own juices. However, I think as a Christian one shouldn’t get into that habit too often…either lack compassion or fall into a rut of grumbling. There is a way to get problems and conflicts resolved without doing that…says so right in Phillippians 2:14-15 “DO everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky” They key, as I see it, is the DOING not the talking.