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SPOKANE, Wash. (RNS) Spiritual abuse is when authoritarian religious groups use power and control to instill fear and guilt into worshippers. Similar to domestic abuse, if victims don’t deal with the trauma, survivor Karen Wanjico said, it can damage one’s mental health, relationships and worldview.

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  1. Greetings,

    Just found info about Karen. Would be interested to connect with her. You might be interested in my doctoral research on the topic of spiritual abuse and recovery.

    My book is: Spiritual Abuse Recovery.

    My website is: www.ChurchExiters.com

    My contact email is: info@ChurchExiters.com

    Barb

    • It has taken many years to heal from my spiritual abuse and the healing, I now see as an evolving thing, because, five or ten years ago, I would tell people I am healing and even last year I told people I have healed considerably but occassionally something would come up that would trigger the setback. Also, as I’ve learned about PTSD, I see that what I experienced was a form of PTSD.
      My spiritual abuse occurred when I was in my middle teens, and the Mormon
      Bishop, doing what he was told by his, so called prophet, seer and revelator would constantly ask us if we were “morally clean” and had us programmed to equate that term with being able to control masterbation, Well, I was not very good at controling it and the harder I tried the more difficult it was to control, so that by the time I was in my late teens, I was a basket case and could not think straight. Him asking me those questions should have been none of his business, and I also believe that by him doing that, He… The best way I can describe what I went through is to give you a very graffic description of what I believe my experience was during those years.
      I opened my heart the that man, believing I would be loved, (Like a woman opens her legs to a man, believing love is present), yet love is not present, only fear of the future, guilt of the past, so I was totaly honest with that man, who was asking questions that we adults don’t even ask each other, and in answering him honestly, I was not respecting myself, so in that experience of me not unerstanding the importance of self respect, he was undermining what little self-respect I had, In other words, I not realize I was being spiritually “[expletive deleted]” pardon the graffic description but that is what he did. The reason I am so graffidally descriptive about this is when you start messing with ones inner-most spiritual center and combining that messing with ones undeveloped understanding of his own sexuality, you really [expletive deleted] with that person’s mind.Anyway, that is pretty much it in a nutshell. However, there is a lot more I would love to say about how I was lied to about the Mormon founder. I was taught that he was a perfect little angel, never did anything wrong and that the governor of Illonois was out to get him. that is crap, If Mr. Smith were alive today, he’d be know registered sex offender.
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  2. Brian Birmingham

    Pot, meet kettle. Actually, I rather feel sorry for Pete. After all, this is a man who has spent the last 40-odd years of his life trying to BE Ole Anthony.

  3. I am a unique presenter because I am not motivated to defend any religion or faith. My goal is to help people who are hurting. For some that may mean after attending they decide to explore other faiths, for others that may mean freedom from religion. It’s about honoring the person. Also I am not into identifying who is spiritually abusive; my audience self identifies whether or not to attend.

    • I know spiritual abuse well as I work with a non profit group called AAWA (Advocates for Awareness of Watchtower Abuses) We are trying to bring public awareness to the abuses within the high control religion. I am in Montana and wish I had known about your classes here. I would appreciate you contacting me with information of the whens and where’s of the Spokane seminar.

    • Karen Wanjico, have you ever worked with anyone from the WatchTower Tract Society who are 99% shunned by those inside including family? If, so, what were the results? I ask because I have family inside who don’t realize they are being spiritually abused and believe the deception and don’t recognize the disrespect from the WTS’s changing teachings and policy disguised as “New Light”.

      There are many who are actively requesting WTS to change its abusive policies and help awaken its members to these. We want to know what’s working in this delicate arena.

  4. Karen, it sounds like you are performing a valuable service. My wife and I run a monthly support group for victims of spiritual abuse in the Dallas, Texas area. There are plenty of victims around who need love and support.

  5. Are there any Spokane WA area recovery groups to help those of us who’ve escaped the abusive church environment?
    I’ve met many other victims but never anyone capable or willing to work with victims.

  6. Talking about the abuse is key. I’m part of a group of Ex-Jehovah’s Witnesses on Facebook who support each other in healing. If anyone is interested in joining, here’s the link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/xjwrg3/

    Thank you for tackling this subject that is not often discussed. Spiritual Abuse is real, and I know many who have been affected by it.

  7. Thank you for raising awareness of the very real issue of spiritual abuse and subsequent religious trauma syndrome. The topic of forced shunning of family members strikes very close to home – my husband has been shunned by his minor children since he left the faith he was raised in. This type of spiritual abuse is alive and well in 2013 as shown in this summer’s DC convention talk: “Shun your disfellowshipped loved ones!” a talk by a Watchtower representative urging the shunning of relatives that has sent shock waves through the online JW community:

    http://jwsurvey.org/cedars-blog/shun-your-disfellowshipped-loved-ones-shocking-district-convention-talk-hits-youtube

  8. Great article! Thel damage one one suffers from being raised in a high control group is very real. The spiritual abusers intentionally cripple self-esteem, making it very difficult to thrive outside of their group. It can take years to recover, and many suffer from depression and substance abuse. Thank you for raising awareness about “spiritual abuse”

  9. Affinity Foundation for the last 30 years has promoted community awareness of religious abuse and trauma, as well as, offered support to the men, women and children who have and are suffering from abusive indoctrination. Currently, we are attempting to raise awareness and support in the Spokane, WA area.

    It Is Time To Recognize The Trauma

    Spiritual or Religious Trauma Syndrome (STS) is the condition experienced by people who are suffering in a destructive authoritarian religion, struggling with leaving an authoritarian, dogmatic religion, or have left such a religion and are coping with the damage of indoctrination. They may be going through the shattering of a personally meaningful faith and/or breaking away from a controlling community and lifestyle. The symptoms compare most easily with Posttraumatic Stress Disorder PTSD, the impact of STS is long lasting, with intrusive thoughts; negative emotional states, impaired social functioning, suicidal ideation and a diverse possibility of associated mental and emotional difficulties.

    Individuals can experience STS in different ways depending on a variety of factors. Some key symptoms of STS are:
    • Confusion, difficulty making decisions, trouble thinking for self, lack of meaning or direction, undeveloped sense of self
    • Anxiety being in “the world,” panic attacks, fear of damnation, depression, thoughts of suicide, anger, bitterness, betrayal, guilt, grief and loss, difficulty with expressing emotion
    • Sleep and eating disorders, substance abuse, nightmares, perfectionism, discomfort with sexuality, negative body image, impulse control problems, difficulty enjoying pleasure or being present here and now
    • Rupture of family and social network, loneliness, problems relating to society, personal relationship issues

    Community Event- A brief discussion and current available support for people suffering from STS will be given followed by open dialogue. If you or someone you know is suffering from STS please contact affinityfoundation@icloud.com for date and location information. Or call 216-1427

    Please join us.

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