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(RNS) John Paulk, who for years was known as the poster boy for the Christian "ex-gay'' movement, says he has come to terms with his sexuality and says he is "truly, truly sorry for the pain I have caused'' in supporting the belief that gays can change.


  1. Very, very sorry to hear this news. This is one more tragic headline following two or three weeks’ worth of tragic headlines. It’s as though Hell itself has declared war on this nation AND it’s winning.

    The only bright spot in this dark story is Anne Paulk continuing to make a strong stand for Jesus Christ. Meanwhile, prayers for the family and for all of us.

    • Zomberina Contagion

      I’m sorry, but this man deciding to own up to who he really is should not be compared to the hundreds of people killed, injured, and displaced all over the globe these past 3 weeks.

      • I am sorry also, but I believe the comparison is apt, although I do not expect and do not seek agreement on that issue. This is not only a time of tragic physical deaths occurring in our nation, but also a time of tragic spiritual deaths, and the deaths of priceless family relationships, and the tragic demise of people’s personal faith in Jesus Christ. The horrific news about John Paulk clearly fits these latter categories.

    • Why do you assume that if John turns back he can’t be “making a stand for Jesus Christ?” He’s humbly apologizing, hasn’t renounced Christ, but only renounced ways of interpreting the Bible that don’t take into account history, culture, and original language and context. There’s a body of biblical and historical evidence out there that supports the acceptance of gays and lesbians as full members of the body of Christ without manipulating them into pursuing an ex-gay “solution.”

  2. These are just some of the very good attitudes about how the whole world should think about and treat all gays and lesbians and transgender folks —

    1. Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother’s way…….Romans 14:13

    2. Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God……Romans 15:7

    3. Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love…….Ephesians 4:2

    4. Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble…….1 Peter 3:8

    5. Man’s ways are of the Lord,…………Proverbs 20:24

    6. You may believe there’s nothing wrong with what you are doing or how you feel about yourself, so keep it between yourself and God. BLESSED are those who don’t feel guilty for doing something or thinking of themselves in the way they know is best……….Romans 14:22

    7. All things are allowable, all things are lawful, all things are permissible…..1 Corinthians 6:12…..1 Corinthians 10:23

    8. And don’t forget what Jesus said, “The Spirit of God or the Holy Spirit will lead and guide us into the future…..John 16:13

    The Holy Spirit is what’s helping all of us LGBT’s navigate our lives in this world today.


  3. tHE BIBLE says: (9) What! Do YOU not know that unrighteous persons will not inherit God’s kingdom? Do not be misled. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men kept for unnatural purposes, nor men who lie with men, (10) nor thieves, nor greedy persons, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit God’s kingdom. (11) And yet that is what some of YOU were. But YOU have been washed clean, but YOU have been sanctified, but YOU have been declared righteous in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ and with the spirit of our God.- (1Cor.6:9-11)
    The phrase “that is what some of you WERE” shows that these had repented and QUIT doing those things and had brought their lives into line with GOD’S way and commands. It’s not a matter of “praying away the gay” (that’s ridiculous) It’s a matter of making the CHOICE to take up your torture stake and deny the flesh and live by spirit. Do you think people with anger issues (genetic source) should not get control over themselves both physically and emotionally and live like God prescribes? Will God “love” them if they are beating people up all the time without even trying to stop? Again the Bible answers this at Gal.5:19-21: (19) Now the works of the flesh are manifest, and they are fornication, uncleanness, loose conduct, (20) idolatry, practice of spiritism, enmities, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, contentions, divisions, sects, (21) envies, drunken bouts, revelries, and things like these. As to these things I am forewarning YOU, the same way as I did forewarn YOU, that those who practice such things WILL NOT INHERIT GOD’S KINGDOM.

      • No, Lan, I am not…. what I said was not a judgement from ME. I just stated facts that are in GOD’S WORD. He is righteous and would never destroy someone without warning them first and then giving enough time for them to make a change. He desires ALL to attain to repentance. (2 Peter 3:9-17) But there will come the day when there is no more time left and anyone not willing to live by HIS standards will not remain on this earth (nor in heaven). 2 Peter 3:5-7 states:  For, according to their wish, this fact escapes their notice, that there were heavens from of old and an earth standing compactly out of water and in the midst of water by the word of God;  and by those [means] the world of that time suffered destruction when it was deluged with water.  But by the same word the heavens and the earth that are now are stored up for fire and are being reserved to the day of judgment and of destruction of the ungodly men.

        • Here are a few things to consider —

          The Bible, as all holy text, has its limitations.

          Paul put it this way —

          “The Kingdom of God is not in “word” (that means scripture verse), but “power” (that means the loving and protecting divine presence in all of us, especially those that believe)………….it’s not food and drink but “righteousness” (that means doing good works and deeds) and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit”.

          I think that sums it up in a simplified way.

          The “Spirit” and the “Spirit” alone is all that really matters, said Bruce Barton, of “The Man Nobody Knows” fame.

          The Bible doesn’t determine what the Holy Spirit does and the Spirit doesn’t consult what is written down as it goes about its work.

          Jesus said, “The Holy Spirit will guide and lead us all into all good and truthful things.”

          That is our authority, being led and moved by the Holy Spirit, to constantly review the things that are revealed and make decisions about their importance and applicability.

          All scripture verses are not equal.

          Some verses are more important than others.

          Few people know a considerable amount about the scriptures and that doesn’t adversely affect their lives.

          Holy books are good guides, but make poor Gods.

          All holy books have their cobwebs and hype and loose ends.

          It is written that all scripture is inspired, but that doesn’t mean that all scripture is complete, concise, without issues, applicable to all and with excellent clarity.

          We all must rely on the leading of the Holy Spirit.

        • Earold Gunter

          CM, Have you considered the people “God” killed with the “great flood”, or those who lived in Sodom or Gomorrah, or the many people who were the victims of genocide at the hands of the Jews (except for the virgin women of course), or the many billions of people who have lived n this world who have had almost no chance to hear the carefully spun “message” preached by the believers of this cobbled together book that your cult believes is the word of the creator of all merely because of the where they were born? Honestly. you’re self righteous arrogance offends me, as does your narcissistic belief that there is a creator of all, who “lovingly” gave us chance at redemption from actions he called “sins”, which he enabled man to commit, and brought this message in the iron age to a minutely small uneducated segment of the world. Wake up, this book you call the word of god is nothing but fables and myth. Read the bible, not with the blinders of faith, but with self-honesty and a reasoning mind you think your God gave you, and you may realize it isn’t necessary to believe in either an after life in nirvana or one tortured by the boogie man, in order to treat your fellow human beings with respect and love.

  4. “With all my heart” I will say that change in sexuality is possible, and it’s possible with AUTHENTIC Reparative Therapy. John Paulk never undertook real RT. No one has the right to judge another. However, change is indeed possible. See and if you like. The fact that John stated he never felt loved, even through Exodus and “reparative therapy,” suggests that he indeed never experienced, or didn’t know how to experience, the marvelous love and authentic male self that comes from true change. (Read his bio of his early life of extreme gender confusion.) Of course, there are varying degrees of change for various people, and change is extremely difficult because we are dealing with deeply rooted gender identity inferiority and severely unmet male emotional needs. My heart goes out to John, especially since I know his wife and other circumstances. But change can happen. Just read the over 100 stories of THERAPEUTIC change on

  5. Our God says we should hate the sin but love the sinner,that’s what we Christians are doing,we can’t sit and watch sin contaminate the world..we are the salt of the earth,and salt as we all know has a strong influence on anything it comes in contact with,that is why we oppose homosexuality…Open your eyes to the truth,the devil is really destroying you all

  1. […] The Religion News Service adds that  the publication PQ Monthly noted Paulk had been seen in various gay bars and had gay clients for his catering business, which he and his wife, self described "ex-lesbian" Anne Paulk started when he left the ministry in 2003.  Paulk said that his marriage of 20 years to Anne was ending, and she is taking a different stance, still embracing reparative therapy with Christian counseling through the Restored Hope Network, saying in a statement that "Christ is still at work changing lives in conformity to God's will expressed in the Bible."  She indicated that she will be praying for John: […]

  2. […] After hosting ex-gay activist Trace McNutt, Janet Parshall invited Anne Paulk to her show to discuss “healing and hope for those longing to leave the gay lifestyle behind.” Paulk is an ex-gay activist who was married to John Paulk, the poster boy of the ex-gay movement, until his recent announcement that he is in fact still gay and apology for his role pushing ex-gay therapy. […]

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