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As hard as it may be, it is our calling as married people to do this work: to love our partners as they are now, to help them to become the joyous and purposeful people whom God wants them to be

Categories: Beliefs

Martin Elfert

Martin Elfert

The Rev. Martin Elfert is an immigrant to the Christian faith. After the birth of his first child, he began to wonder about the ways in which the Divine was at work in the world. Shortly thereafter, he joined Christ Church Cathedral in Vancouver, BC, where he and his new son were baptized at the Easter Vigil in 2005 and where the community encouraged him to seek ordination.


  1. Although I haven’t always agreed with many of your writings in this forum, I have to say that this is an excellent answer to this question. Really sound advice, well put.

  2. I have been in a sexless marriage for 3/4 years. I am in hell. He is Indian . His family tells me how UN-educated I am. He calls me fat stupid ext… I drink now. . . . I want to die. My mom has forced me into this so strong its hard to get out. They say I am nothing. . . I want to be a sculptor…. I cry and sleep naked next to him every night and I get nothing. . I am a curvy 180 pound 24 year old with 32 DD boobs. AANND feeling death is a closer life. . . HE does not even get my jokes.