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(RNS) Ramadan is the most social month of the Muslim year, a period of fellowship with family and friends over sometimes lavish evening meals. But many American converts to Islam break the daily fast alone, often in front of the TV set.


  1. Malik Freeman

    Looks like we are going to have to do it the hard way! You hit it on the head when you talked about being “left to read or look at the ceiling” while everyone else converses in their native language. Hey: you guys are in America. I guess I have to build by own mosque funded with U.S. dollars in order to have an Iftar where the jokes are in English and I can laugh on time! Guess what! Food will be served by a server – one plate per customer! PARENTS WITH SMALL CHILDREN FIRST. No pushing! There will be food for the homeless too! I gotta do what I gotta do! THIS is not a joke!

  2. What is wrong with people like this–going outside of their own cultures? There are plenty of welcoming Protestant churches that don’t commit violence, but he wants to be different. At least, if he joined Buddhism or Hinduism, I could possibly understand. He needs to learn the tenets of this group, but FAST.

    • Obviously you don’t know the tenets of Islam. Unfortunately you believe the media hype

  3. If someone wants a clean lifestyle, free of alcohol and a great personal support system with heavy involvement, nothing is better than LDS, i.e., the Mormons. They fast and tithe and do a lot of positive things in the world. They are rooted in the Christian tradition, so you need not look to some form of foreignness.

  4. It is a beautiful yet often difficult thing to truly surrender ourselves to the greater force, whatever one’s choice of religion may be. Be not afraid to become close with the principles of your chosen religion, find comfort in the reasons which have formed your decision. In those principles you will find peace and a sense of calm, irrelevant of your surroundings. Those who have found it hard to merge with different groups, why not use the need you feel goes unattended- to create that which you feel will tend to other individuals’ needs of the same sort. There are many children of the street, many whom do not have a home, many people who feel unloved and alone- let religion not be a reason to get in the way, open your hearts and see- you can create an experience where you allow the same needs to be the common ground for interaction. Let the focus be the need to belong.

  5. Thanks Omar, well done. I’m a revert, over a year and a half now, and although I was encouraged to attend everything and learn more about my deen, that is far from the case here in Anchorage, AK. But I bet your writing something about this issue will make a difference, insha’Allah.
    Ramadan Mubarak!

  6. Regarding the article, it truly is sad. I wish more people would realize that converts give up everything in a way when they take on the religion of Islam. I would like to apologize on behalf of those Muslims that don’t understand.

    Keep your faith between you and your creator. Know that you are not alone no matter what the situation seems like. I know this is easier said than done but surely you will be rewarded for it. Don’t let the actions (or lack thereof) of your community deter you from continuing your journey.

  7. I was blessed to come into a community with a very large population. At the Atlanta Masjid and Masjid al-muminun there are nightly iftars anyone can attend.check with local masjid and see if there are any iftars being held

  8. If anyone wants to have Iftar with my husband, brother and me they are more than welcome too. We’re in Framingham, MA. We speak English. Lol.

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