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(RNS) Two-thirds of the nearly 55,000 annulments granted by Catholic Church tribunals around the world each year are in the U.S., even though American Catholics account for just 6 percent of the world’s Catholic population.

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  1. Once I entered late middle age and sat at weddings were the couple were kids barely over 20, I came to realize that a lot of newlyweds have no idea what they are doing. I’ve come to believe that a rather permissive annulment policy is warrented. Instead the Church has moved the other way. I have been surprised of annulments being refused to divorced Protestants interested in marrying a Catholic.

    My view is that parish priests should have the authority to declare a marriage null.

    • Kurt,

      I agree with you completely. The current process pushes many away from the Church. As a deacon, I see it all the time. We just have to address this issue much more pastorally.

      Greg

      • I am one of those people who has remarried and am unable to receive the Eucharist. My present wife was told she had to get an annulment in order for me to receive. Her first husband committed adultery an offense Jesus clearly gives an exception for In Matthew 19:9, This verse is never quoted about a reason for divorce in the Church, it’s seems to always be over looked.

        I hope there will be changes:)

        • Kevin, most scholars agree that the “exception” given in Matthew 19:9, if the original Greek is more correctly translated, does not refer to adultery, but rather to “marital illegitimacy,” probably a reference to gentile marriages that would not have been considered valid according to Christian standards, which derived from Jewish moral law (for example, marriage among close family members was not unusual among certain gentiles of the time. These would not have been considered valid marriages, and therefore could have been dissolved). This only makes sense. If the rule was simply that one partner committing adultery would make divorce legitimate, then a partner has an easy out. I’m a husband, I decide I’m in love with someone else, but, darn! I’m already married. So, all I have to do is sleep with my new paramour. Then I have committed adultery, the marriage can now be ended by divorce, and I get the woman I want. Kind of nullifies Jesus’ tough stance on marriage.

          The first two options given in the article have one HUGE problem: they would involve the Church simply negating the teaching of Jesus that has been passed down over the centuries. Remember that the Church declares its own mission to be the preservation of the teaching of Christ, only defining ideas to clarify and detail what has already been handed down through the apostles. While you may debate whether certain teachings are really the necessary implications of original apostolic teachings, that is the idea and the purpose, and so a direct contradiction of a teaching consistently held for 2 millenia becomes a problem. It is like the Church implicitly admitting, “Well, we’re just making it up as we go along. None of it REALLY came from God, it’s just our best understanding.” Jesus said that anyone who divorced his wife and married another committed adultery, and that has been interpreted consistently since the time of the apostles. We can even see this as early as the writings of the apostle Paul, who said that a divorced couple must either remain unmarried or reconcile.

          Please do not believe I am here preaching from an ivory tower. I am a Catholic man. My wife and I recently separated (thank the Lord we have been successfully working on co-parenting), and as she stated that there is no hope for reconciliation, we will be getting a legal divorce for tax purposes. And, as a result, I am staring at the reality of a lifetime of celibacy. I am doing it because I believe in the teaching of Jesus, no matter how tough it may be. I trust that my Lord would not have commanded something unless it was the best thing for me and for those others involved. I can’t always see why it’s necessary, but I believe He can, and therefore knows better than I do. I trust God as my loving Father, and the Son as my wise and caring older Brother. I’ll work to do what He says, knowing that, as bleak as things may seem now, in the end it will make for the happiest possible life.

          • Hi Jeff,
            Nothing is impossible with God.
            Please visit Rejoice Marriage Ministry (https://www.rejoiceministries.org/) and believe that your marriage can be restored.
            God heals hurting and dead marriages. He can bring back the love and hope.
            have a nice day!

  2. US tribunals grant so many annulments not because they are easy, but because so many seek them, perhaps because there yet remains a respect for the law. But that might be eroding.

    We’ve trained a lot of canon lawyers the past few decades, so what happens to those cogs in the institution, lay and clergy, if they are no longer working on declarations of nullity?

  3. Ronald Sevenster

    The only effect of a more “pastoral approach” is that official Church doctrine on marriage and divorce will get even more fossilized than it already is at present. Church doctrine and pastoral praxis will become two completely separate worlds, so much so that nobody who knew only the doctrine could ever deduce the praxis from it, or vice versa. A permissive pastoral approach never works. Once a certain item is covered by it, the next item, which isn’t yet covered, becomes the problem. The slippery slope of an endlessly adapting and shifting pastoral praxis will inevitably lead to the predictable end result of the acceptance of the entire liberal agenda of modern secular humanity by the Church. Once the ban on communion for divorced is lifted, the pressure will build on lifting the ban on those living together “in long term relationships” wholly outside matrimony. Then, next, the ban on “stable” homosexual relationships must be lifted also, since this type of relationship is a priori non-matrimonial. Next, bisexuals will complain about their exclusion and so the ban on non-monogamous relationships has to be lifted. So polygamy has to be permitted by the Church. And after all that there will still be persons who will feel discriminated and “treated harshly” by the Church and who will raise their voice because they feel unable to live in stable relationships at all. For, if the demand of marriage is no longer essential, for what reason should relationships be required to be “stable” or “long term”? Why can’t I just have a love affair for a couple of months? Why should the Church have any say in these matters anyway? The only logical end of this is the complete dissolution of Christian moral doctrine. It is the apostasy of the professing Christianity.

    • I understand what you are saying but i am a divorced-remarried Catholic, when i got married at the ripe old age of 18 i planned to stay married to my husband for the rest of my life. I stayed married to this man for 20 years, i did everything in my power to keep my marriage together but realized when he hit my daughter i could no longer stay in the marriage and before you say anything about councling did that made him go did not work so now i am divorced and remarried. But when i go to church i can not go to communion i feel like i don’t belong anymore in the church that i grew up in is that fair to me. I don’t belive in people living together, i know that being gay goes against all of GOD’s laws does not mean that people who are doing these very things are not taking communion now. I on the other hand will not go to communion until i know that i am not breaking the laws of my church.

  4. My first husband and I were married in the Catholic Church. We divorced. I then married a non-catholic who had previously been married, but not in a Catholic Church. My ex-husband died, but I have been told that my current husband must get an annulment in order for our marriage to be blessed so that I can then receive communion. I

    • not true, unless, of course, your present husband — whether Catholic or not — were also previously divorced. Chances are: if he were previously divorced, the annulment process undertaken by the Church would be fairly simple. Please look into it.

  5. Johanna Carrikk

    My husband and I have been divorced for 31 years. We were married in the Catholic Church and very active in our church. We waited two years after being engaged to get married. This was a valid sacramental marriage. We had two lovely sons and divorce was never an option. After 17 years of marriage and a total of 21 years together, we did get a divorce and my husband subsequently married his pregnant secretary. I was heart broken and it damaged our family beyond measure. It took years of therapy and finally coming to a place that my relationship with God is stronger than ever and that relationship is private and personal. I am a much sought after spiritual counselor whose primary mission in life is to encourage people to live with devotion to God. My ex-husband recently asked me for an annulment because he was told he can no longer receive any sacraments due to our divorce. This has created even more pain and suffering and I will not cooperate in this spiritual hypocrisy. I cannot believe in my heart and soul that the Pope really knew the firestorm the Bishops conference would create. Now what do I do? I refuse to say my marriage was invalid because that is a lie. And I refuse to have my sex life discussed with a stranger. THIS HAS GOT TO STOP. Please do something that is humane, I feel like I am living in the dark ages or the Inquisition. THIS IS NOT HOLY AND CERTAINLY NOT SACRED.

    • Hi Johanna,
      Nothing is impossible with God.
      Please visit Rejoice Marriage Ministry (https://www.rejoiceministries.org/) and believe that your marriage can be restored.
      God heals hurting and dead marriages. He can bring back the love and hope.
      have a nice day!

  6. I recently received a Negative Decision after seeking an annulment and have been completely devastated! I was married over 20 years to an alcoholic and finally reached the point where I would be dead if I stayed–not that he would have hurt me, but rather became very lifeless. I have been a very devout, active catholic my entire life. I met a wonderful man with whom I became engaged to a year ago. My “advocate” did not advocate for me and now I have this “definitive sentence” that has rocked to the core, my faith in the Catholic Church. Everyone I know….that has known me over the course of my “marriage” was shocked at the decision. I was told by a priest that my salvation is at risk if I continue this loving relationship and that one us has to die!

    • My situation is similar to yours as my former marriage became intolerable after many years. I also have struggled with the same problem. I found out that there are many like us who receive communion. It’s a matter of conscience, (considering that many eligible communicants never go to confession) I would receive communion. Perhaps this would change but I not going to hold my breath. The prelates need to realize that we too are the Church, not just them. There is healing and forgiveness in the Eucharist. I would find it difficult to imagine that Jesus does not want you to receive him.

  7. Church Must Reform to Bring Back Lapsed Catholics

    Millions of Catholics have voted with their feet on the issues of divorce and remarriage as well as other social worries. According to a 2008 Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life survey, some 22.5 million Americans are now lapsed Catholics.

    At 10% of the adult American population, this number makes them the second largest denomination in the USA. They have quietly walked away from the church of their younger years. Even church apologists call it a “silent schism.” A recent poll by the Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate at Georgetown University reports that 42.7 million Catholics, or two-thirds of the once faithful, are not consistently going to Mass.

    How could this be? When I was an altar boy in the late 1950s, the pews of St Catherine’s Church were always full at every Mass. Last fall, I attended Sunday Mass at my old parish and found the church about one-third full. That corresponds with statistics released by a group called Catholics Come Home, which estimates one-third of Catholics attend Mass regularly, one-third attend occasionally, and one-third never attend. A recent poll conducted by the Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate at Georgetown University found almost 43 million American Catholics, or two-thirds, are not going to church at all.

    Clearly something is terribly wrong with the leadership of the church in the last generation to produce this dismal evangelical record. Says one lapsed Catholic, Pat Denver of Denver, “I’ll come back when married men can be priests and all women are treated fairly. And when I believe bishops don’t lie to cover up for priests’ crimes.”

    Among the church’s hierarchy, Pope Francis seems to understand this reality—much better than his aging counselors–and is willing to ponder reform. This fall, he will convene a synod of bishops in Rome to deliberate on family challenges. At the top of the agenda is the issue of divorced and remarried Catholics. They form a group of 4.5 million Catholics in the US alone who are considered adulterers for life and banned from receiving Communion-the redemptive heart light of Catholicism.

    Last month, I joined a majority of Catholics and ex-Catholics calling for an end to discrimination against divorced and remarried people. The responses to my posting and other articles on the subject are running 95% in favor of lifting the ban. Their comments were direct, colorful, and often angry. More and more people perceive a great gulf between official Catholicism and the gentle doctrines of its founder, Jesus Christ.

    Please visit my blog to read a sampling of lay comments on this divisive issue.

    • I am relieved to read that others feel the same way I do. My son and I were abandoned by my first husband. We were both Catholic. I sought an annulment and received a negative decision. I left the Church. That was 25 years ago. Much water has gone under the bridge since then. He is not dead; he divorced his second wife, much in the same fashion, and now lives with another woman that he is not married to. I planned to stay married to him the rest of my life. I have had a rocky road since then, but I have been in the Protestant church with my current husband for 17 years. My son has remained Catholic. I want to return to the Church, but I am sure I would not be welcome. I am very disappointed in the situation.

  8. I feel your pain. I have been trying to get an anullment for 12 years. The first time was totally messed up as I had no help whatsoever. I was given a second chance,this one was even worse.I feel no one on the churches side has any integrity whatsoever as they only used what they thought was usable in order to deny the anullment. In my opinion they did not follow the procedure I was told would be used.Example: None of my witnesses were used or even notified. The priest who helped me the second time,none of his detailed documents were used. They seemed to go back to the original botched anullment proceeding whenever it was convenient for them. they have no accountability , whatsoever.Some of these priests were not even born when I was married, yet they ,basically get to speculate on what went on during your marriage. My faith in god is still there, but my faith in the church is gone. What does one have to do to get a fair hearing? Where do you go to find a person with some integrity and understanding? You will never get me to believe that a priest even begins to understand what goes on in a marriage,or what happens inside the four walls we call home.By the way I was married 44 years ago,divorced 33 years ago, and can’t get a fair hearing. HELP!!!

  9. “The current policy has caused what some call a “silent schism,” and bishops around the world concede that the ban has alienated untold numbers of Catholics and their families.”

    It is not the “policy” that has alienated these Catholics — it is their own choice to live a live of objective grave sin by attempting to marry after a divorce when not free to do so. Pride — the same sin that led to the fall of the angels and our first parents. Admitting those in this state to Holy Communion may make them feel better now, but how are they going to feel when they ultimately (unless they repent) face He whose Body and Blood they have been consuming unworthily,and have to account for those sacrileges in addition to their other sins? There is no charity in setting a soul up to take such a fall.

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