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What would happen if your fiancé were to give you a ring?

Categories: Beliefs

Martin Elfert

Martin Elfert

The Rev. Martin Elfert is an immigrant to the Christian faith. After the birth of his first child, he began to wonder about the ways in which the Divine was at work in the world. Shortly thereafter, he joined Christ Church Cathedral in Vancouver, BC, where he and his new son were baptized at the Easter Vigil in 2005 and where the community encouraged him to seek ordination.


  1. Or…the guy could just take the idea of marriage so seriously that it scares him. In which case he’s probably “mister right”.

  2. samuel Johnston

    Hi L.N.,
    I am inclined to think that your idea may be correct, at least it should be considered. I have been married only once, and for over forty years and still counting. Nothing scared me so much as the idea of being responsible for another person – for life. Oddly, I accepted our daughter’s birth more quickly. She is now thirty five and I cannot imagine our life without her.
    Young people deserve to be listened to and not just lectured. We were among the happy few who disregarded our parents opinions, and decided for ourselves. We have a better marriage than either of our parents ( they are deceased, but would likely agree).

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