The most charitable explanation that I can come up with is that we are well-intentioned but thoroughly clueless.
Author Archives: Martin Elfert
About Martin Elfert
The Rev. Martin Elfert is an immigrant to the Christian faith. After the birth of his first child, he began to wonder about the ways in which the Divine was at work in the world. Shortly thereafter, he joined Christ Church Cathedral in Vancouver, BC, where he and his new son were baptized at the Easter Vigil in 2005 and where the community encouraged him to seek ordination.
Elfert now serves as a pastor at the Episcopal Cathedral of St. John the Evangelist. Through his writing he seeks to minister with, and to learn from, all those who hope to get to know God better, he said.
Elfert and his wife, Phoebe, have three children.
It can take a lot of time and a lot of effort to get to the place where we are able to name out loud the thing with which we are struggling.
While acknowledging the sadness of our divisions, I would also like to acknowledge and even to celebrate the ways in which our diverse traditions make the Body of Christ manifest across the globe.
My educated guess is that the symbols, traditions, and ritual actions around marriage which will survive are those that, in some way, nurture relationships.
I find it plausible enough that there might be some souls who take longer to leave this world than others.
I’m worried that you may not be allowing room for the possibility of finding the Spirit in the everydayness of neighbor and of neighborhood.
The last handful of times that I have been to a wedding, one word in the service has particularly caught my attention. That word is “mutual.”
The absence of biblical teaching on abortion is one of the big reasons that the Christian movement has historically kept room for a broad range of opinions on this subject.
The absence of communication between your boyfriend and the mother of his child is a major red flag.