Picture the people whom you love. Maybe that’s your mom or your dad, maybe that’s a brother or a sister, maybe that’s a teacher or a coach, maybe that’s a friend.
Author Archives: Martin Elfert
About Martin Elfert
The Rev. Martin Elfert is an immigrant to the Christian faith. After the birth of his first child, he began to wonder about the ways in which the Divine was at work in the world. Shortly thereafter, he joined Christ Church Cathedral in Vancouver, BC, where he and his new son were baptized at the Easter Vigil in 2005 and where the community encouraged him to seek ordination.
Elfert now serves as a pastor at the Episcopal Cathedral of St. John the Evangelist. Through his writing he seeks to minister with, and to learn from, all those who hope to get to know God better, he said.
Elfert and his wife, Phoebe, have three children.
God may not take away your sadness and loneliness, God may not make your sadness and loneliness make sense. But the peace of God, which passes all understanding, will share in your hardship. Just as that big love did for me more than 20 years ago, God will walk with you through the wilderness.
Your fiancé deserves to be married to someone who wants to have sex with him. And you deserve the same.
Across a lifetime, there are a handful of relationships in which both parties swear that they are getting the better part of the deal than the other, in which both swear that they are receiving the bigger blessing.
Give yourself, your girlfriend, and your family and your friends the gift of being together as you celebrate your marriage.
It’s time for you and your girlfriend to book a few meetings with an impartial professional and talk these (and still other) questions out.