The last handful of times that I have been to a wedding, one word in the service has particularly caught my attention. That word is “mutual.”
Author Archives: Martin Elfert
About Martin Elfert
The Rev. Martin Elfert is an immigrant to the Christian faith. After the birth of his first child, he began to wonder about the ways in which the Divine was at work in the world. Shortly thereafter, he joined Christ Church Cathedral in Vancouver, BC, where he and his new son were baptized at the Easter Vigil in 2005 and where the community encouraged him to seek ordination.
Elfert now serves as a pastor at the Episcopal Cathedral of St. John the Evangelist. Through his writing he seeks to minister with, and to learn from, all those who hope to get to know God better, he said.
Elfert and his wife, Phoebe, have three children.
The absence of biblical teaching on abortion is one of the big reasons that the Christian movement has historically kept room for a broad range of opinions on this subject.
The absence of communication between your boyfriend and the mother of his child is a major red flag.
If you are hearing a call to find a church and a vigorous faith, Searching, then go find the Christians who surprise you with their love, their patience, and their willingness to take holy risks.
FKB is only as good as the questions that folks send in, and I’m grateful to everyone who shares their curiosity and their vulnerability and their passion with us.
Especially in marriages in which one partner is better at math or is better at resisting impulsive shopping sprees than the other, life may be a whole lot happier and more stable if they choose to keep some things separate.
Getting married right now isn’t going to solve any of your problems — it’s just going to make new ones for you.
If we truly believe scripture’s claim that human beings are made in God’s image, then the question of who decides the worth of a special needs person is already answered: just like you and me, those with special needs are God’s beloved children