Jesus wants your vote _ and he needs a running mate

c. 2008 Religion News Service (UNDATED) In spite of depression and obsessive-compulsive disorder that have nagged her since she was a teenager, 20-year-old Krissee is determined to keep the self-destructive manifestations of both conditions in check. It hasn’t been easy, says Krissee, who asked that her last name not be used. “To this day, I […]

c. 2008 Religion News Service

(UNDATED) In spite of depression and obsessive-compulsive disorder that have nagged her since she was a teenager, 20-year-old Krissee is determined to keep the self-destructive manifestations of both conditions in check.

It hasn’t been easy, says Krissee, who asked that her last name not be used. “To this day, I still want to do it,” she said.


“It” was pulling out her hair, a strand at a time, until she was essentially bald.

“It” also was self-injury. She used a razor blade or X-acto knife to slash her forearms and legs.

Growing up near Grand Rapids, Mich., Krissee remembers a happy childhood, but one that was tinged with feelings of low self-worth. As the feelings persisted and her anxiety grew, she pulled out her hair and eventually started to cut herself as a way to cope, she said.

“I had this amazing buildup of stress, and this was a way to release that, a physical way to cope,” she said. “I couldn’t always hide what I did, so I’ve got to believe I wanted somebody to know I wasn’t OK.”

Her parents tried to find her help, she said, and a “parade of every sort of counseling, therapy and medication you can think of” brought some good results. But it didn’t make her invincible.

“I needed a safe place to talk,” she said.

Then a friend told her about heartsupport.com, and Krissee volunteered to be one of the first to share her story with a new online community whose organizers want to be a source of hope and healing for those who are hurting.

She posted a video testimony of her experiences on the Web site, and today serves as a live-chat moderator.


“The main thing is, you’ve got to talk about it,” Krissee said. “When I finally talked about it to the people I loved, that’s when the healing really started.”

Heartsupport.com is a new ministry for those with substance abuse or self-injury issues, eating disorders, depression or suicidal thoughts.

The ministry was started last October by friends Jon Bell, 24 (whose brother, Rob Bell, is the up-and-coming pastor of Mars Hill Bible Church in Grandville, Mich.); Web designer Clint McManaman, 27; and Craig Gross, 32, an ordained minister and former youth pastor perhaps best known as the founder of anti-pornography ministry XXXchurch.com.

McManaman, a drummer for former Christian rock band Sub Seven, said he had heard stories from fans about their personal struggles while on the road touring.

Eventually, the trio of friends decided they wanted to do more.

Heartsupport.com includes features such as live and e-mail support with licensed counselors, chats and message boards where posters can share their experiences, and the chance for people to upload their video stories.

The idea behind heartsupport, as described in Bell’s online bio, is simple: “Sometimes the most important words for a person to say are `Me too.”’


An addiction to porn was how McManaman connected with Gross. For Bell, it was a struggle with drugs and clinical depression that led to his involvement with heartsupport.

“I realized I was depressed in seventh grade,” Bell recalled.

Instead of seeking help, he said, he numbed his pain with drugs.

“I didn’t feel like I could let my parents or siblings down, and I didn’t feel like church was a safe place to talk about what I was going through,” Bell said.

“I think that’s common, the feeling that people will think `What do you mean, you’re not doing OK? You’re in church.’ I think a lot of people feel a need to have everything together.”

Admitting that he had a problem led to treatment and counseling, and allowed those closest to him to pull him up and out of his misery.

Had someone recommended an online resource, he probably would have used it, Bell said.

“It’s a safer conversation to say `Go to heartsupport’ than `You should see a counselor,’ even though what they’re really saying is `You should see a counselor.”’

Bell blogs on heartsupport’s depression page.

“We believe everybody’s story is important, and that nobody should struggle alone,” he said. “People who are struggling put up walls. We’re trying to kick down as many walls as possible.”


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In its first month, heartsupport.com had 10,000 hits. Visitors to the site typically range in age from 14 to 40.

The trio largely relies on word-of-mouth to promote the Web site. They also speak to church groups and at conferences, and starting this month, Bell will take part in a 37 U.S.-city concert tour that will include a heartsupport booth, where concert-goers can film their own stories to be uploaded to the Web site.

“If they don’t have anyone around them they feel they can talk to, now they have somewhere to go on their own time, in privacy,” McManaman said. “Maybe this is the step they need in talking to someone face to face.”

(Morgan Jarema writes for The Grand Rapids Press in Grand Rapids, Mich.)

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